Finally Dana

This post is inspired by and written in the style of “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid (link here) Boys don’t like dolls. You can’t wear a dress. Why did you paint your nails? wash that off right now. Boys play sports. God doesn’t make mistakes. Homosexuality is an abomination. What is an abomination? Did you know…

We are all the product of choices. Our lot as humans is to make flawed observations of the world around us, then make a choice with too little information. We do not live in an objective reality, instead all we can see is our own subjective interpretation of events. This flawed process is how all…

One of the many wonderful things about being transgender in 2019 is the myriad medical interventions available to me, many of which are covered by insurance. One operation in particular is not due to its apparent lack of “medical necessity.” Gender dysphoria is a complicated and difficult to describe condition. The DSM-V defines it as…

The story is the same for every recent divorcee. There is nothing specific or special about being transgender that encourages the lonely weekend nights. When you are young, your friends are still single and still eager to spend time with friends on the weekend. When you start to approach middle age, weekends become about family.…

Part one I love my friends. I enjoy acquaintances, but I love friends. When I meet people, I can’t help but try to become part of their lives and have them become part of mine. Most of my core group of friends are people I met almost 20 years ago in freshman year of university.…

My name is Dana. I was not born with that name, it is a name that I chose. I chose a new name because the one I was born with did not match who I am or how I want to be perceived.  I am transgender. I often wish I was not.  I have been…